Right now we see a lot of discourse on social media where people readily get aggressive and offensive with each other, because they’re shielded by the barriers that a screen and keyboard provide.

Unfortunately, we’re also seeing that dynamic frequently spill over into face to face interactions as well, sometimes with severe consequences. As armed defenders, we have to acknowledge that every confrontation we’re a part of has the potential to become a gunfight….cuz we brought a gun!

Even if you don’t regularly carry a firearm, it’s worth asking yourself whether or not instigating a hostile exchange is a good idea? You don’t know this person, what their values are, or what kind of day their having. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: You’re only the good guy in YOUR mind, and the “other guy” might not see it that way. Violence of Mind covers this in great detail. You should really get a copy:

That’s not to say that engaging with those with whom you disagree is a BAD idea, but there’s a huge difference between disagreeing, and being disagreeable. Do you know how to have that conversation without being a combative asshole? Verbal Judo and How to Win Friends & Influence People are great resources to hone those skills.

If you do have those interactions treat it like a sparring session, not an actual battle or national level competition….. Or don’t. It’s your time and emotional capital. Spend it how you wish.

The Suited Shootist
Alex Sansone took his first formal pistol class in 2009, and has since accumulated almost 500 total hours of open enrollment training from many of the nation's top instructors including Massad Ayoob, Craig Douglas, Tom Givens, Gabe White, Cecil Burch, Chuck Haggard, Darryl Bolke, and many others. Spending his professional life in the corporate world, Alex quickly realized incongruities between "best practices" in the defensive world, and the practical realities of his professional and social limitations. "I've never carried a gun professionally. I'm just a yuppie suburbanite that happens to live an armed lifestyle. Having worked in the corporate arena for the last decade, I've discovered that a lot of the "requirements" and norms of gun carriers at large aren't necessarily compatible with that professional environment. I also have a pretty diverse social background, having grown up in the Northeast, and there are many people in my life that are either gun-agnostic or uncomfortable with the idea of private gun ownership. This has afforded me not only insights into how we are perceived by different subcultures, but how to manage and interact with people that may not share your point of view without coming across as combative or antisocial. This is why my focus is the overlooked social aspects of the armed lifestyle."