Everybody is the hero of their own movie. Whenever that idea is challenged, the response is typically a desire to defend one’s honor, or explain yourself so that people won’t think ill of you. Neither of those are usually the most ideal way to handle it. Paul Sharp had a great post that highlights some of these concepts that you really should read. Go check it out
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