Guys seem to conflate compassion & kindness with weakness as if somehow being suitably battle-hardened means that you must be an abrasive asshole. I’m fortunate enough to know some very dangerous people with some very impressive resumes. Yet, they have not lost the ability to be a good person.
The interesting thing that I’ve noted about virtually all of these people is that they all seem to have the capacity for incredible kindness and compassion.
They know who they are and what they can do and have nothing to prove to anyone.
Especially online there’s a lot of tough talk, discourtesy, and marginalizing of others.
I happen to have enough people in my circle who serve as good influences and positive role models—examples of what “right” can look like.
That’s not to say they’re perfect—far from it. But despite everything they’ve seen and endured, they still manage to be intentionally kind to others.
I guess this is one of those “don’t talk about it, be about it” things.
Just an observation I felt compelled to share.
